If taking care of yourself meant going no contact and you not only sacrifice your mother but your daughter too, would—or even could you do it? It takes courage.

Ever read a blog post so real, so relatable that you wanted to meet its author? I was lucky enough to do just that in MDTA’s first guest interview with author Heather Valentine, creator of Substack’s Elastic Heart. Get ready to feel like a fly on the wall as you encounter the vicissitudes and internal victories of her life. Here, we get deep but don’t worry Academicians*, Heather knows how to swim…

As I read,“1997 Mother’s Day,” I saw a woman who has lived through the trials, tribulations and challenges of transcending Mama Drama Trauma. In it, Heather exposes her vulnerability in dealing with the most excruciating parts of her journey.

Well written, sure, but I wasn’t expecting this bright little summer read to enlighten me so much about how MDT can develop empathy, what it takes to build courage for self-care, and the transformative power of reframing maternal burdens into blessings. A journey far from easy, I had to invite this authentically witty and unintentionally wise author (and person as you will hear), who gets it.

Another author and speaker I adore is spiritual mystic and medical intuitive, Carolyn Myss who teaches about the difference between fate and destiny. She says fate is tied to “we” and survival which is taught by the family, but destiny is about “I” which is something we must define through individual soul alignment. MDT healing is a lifelong journey to the destiny of “I” which in my experience can take multiple lifetimes. In it, we eventually choose to align by integrating the experience as another form of love. This love is not the kind of we are or are not taught, but the countless internal actions we choose to transform it into the love we need.

We hear a lot about brain plasticity and the power of changing our thoughts but that is impossible without stretching the heart from “we” to “I” and back to “we” after integrating or growing from the pain—every heroine’s journey.

That’s the heart elasticity Heather Valentine shares.

So, If you are on the brink of giving up on yourself, the uphill journey to personal peace or life in general listen to her story. You can also download the Substack app for easy reading, listening and to engage on the chat.

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Podcast theme song: The Pretenders I’m a Mother

I'm a mother

Treat me like a mother

You wanna suck on my breast

It's no surprise you do

I'm the source and the force

You owe your life to, brother

Oh

Oh

Oh

I'm a mother

And I take like a mother

I understand blood

And I understand pain

There can be no life without it

Never doubt it

I'm a mother

I gave you all my money

To help the family

But what you do to me

Don't humiliate me

Remember

I'm a life-long member

Oh

Oh

Oh

I'm a mother

Treat me like a mother

In the middle of the night

I be deep in a dream

You fancy little company

You only have to scream

Loud, brother

Oh

Oh

Oh

I'm a mother

And I fake like a mother

I understand time

And it isn't on my side

But to service mankind

I have to suffer his pride

Like a mother

Oh

Oh

Oh

You say your protection

Is proof of your affection

If I need security

I'll keep a gun on me

Oh

Don't barter with me

Don't barter with me

Little sacrifices

Go straight to heaven

But hunting season's over

This is the 20th century

Oh

Don't barter with me

Oh

Oh

Oh

I'm a mother

And I ache like a mother

If there's a terrible crash

And bodies thrown everywhere

I'll wrap 'em up and carry 'em

If someone has to bury them

Brother

Oh

Oh

Oh

Call upon mother

I'm the vessel of life

I got the trauma here to prove it

When it's time for me to labour for you

Everybody move it

Like a mother

Oh

Oh

Oh

Have something instructive, entertaining or inquisitive to share with us this summer session? Do let me know. Happy summer reading!

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