**Summary: Ending a Relationship When You’re Anxiously Attached by Dr. Dawn-Elise Snipes** [Watch the video](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VS53N-Evz4Q) **Outline Summary:** 1. **Introduction**   - Presenter: Dr. Dawn-Elise Snipes   - Topic: Ending a relationship when you’re anxiously attached   - Definition of anxious attachment 2. **Characteristics of Anxious Attachment**   - Need for relationships to feel safe   - Fear of rejection and abandonment   - Fight or Fawn response to stress   - Dependence on others for validation   - Difficulty setting and maintaining boundaries 3. **Causes of Anxious Attachment**   - Poor child-caregiver relationships   - Trauma and unpredictability in early life   - Experiences in significant relationships 4. **Challenges in Ending Unhealthy Relationships**   - Feeling like a failure   - Opening old wounds from past relationships   - Confusing self-worth with relationship success 5. **Steps to Begin Healing**   - Motivational interviewing and decisional balance   - Identifying benefits and drawbacks of the relationship   - Exploring alternative ways to meet needs 6. **Addressing Unhelpful Thoughts**   - Cognitive distortions: All-or-nothing thinking, catastrophizing, minimizing, personalizing, mind reading   - Listing needs the relationship is supposed to fulfill   - Identifying and challenging beliefs about the relationship 7. **Creating a Safety Net and Relapse Prevention**   - Establishing boundaries and support systems   - Practicing mindfulness   - Focusing on progress rather than perfection 8. **Emotional Responses and Coping Mechanisms**   - Recognizing and addressing feelings of grief and loss   - Having self-compassion   - Engaging with support systems to prevent relapse **Time Codes for Major Points:** 0:00 Introduction by Dr. Dawn-Elise Snipes 2:15 Characteristics of Anxious Attachment 9:45 Causes of Anxious Attachment 15:30 Challenges in Ending Unhealthy Relationships 20:50 Steps to Begin Healing 28:10 Addressing Unhelpful Thoughts 35:40 Creating a Safety Net and Relapse Prevention Feel free to ask if you need further details or a more in-depth explanation on any part of the video! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices