Renew You with Quinn Kelly

Discover the way ahead at Indiana Wesleyan University. Learn more here. Do you have a house full of memories but more messes? Do you find that it’s hard to keep your house cleaned out but desire to have organization and peace within the chaos? In today’s episode, Quinn teaches listeners how to declutter and restore order to your space based on the work of Dana K White.   In the episode, Quinn teaches listeners:          1. One thing to say to yourself when feelings sentimental: I’m not rejecting the item, I’m just saying I don’t have room for it. 2. Two questions to ask yourself when organizing 3. What containers are meant for  Mind Renewal Tip: Containers are meant to contain and serve as a limit – not as a place to stuff. Every space is a container that sets a limit.   Scripture Renewal Tip:  "There is a time to keep, and a time to cast away". This verse suggests that it's okay to get rid of things that are no longer useful. Ecclesiastes 3:6  "Do not store up for yourselves treasures on earth, where moths and vermin destroy, and where thieves break in and steal". This verse suggests that material wealth is temporary and can be lost, while heavenly treasures are eternal Matthew 6:19  Resources: https://www.aslobcomesclean.com/2019/05/printables-for-making-life-easier-and-cuter/

Discover the way ahead at Indiana Wesleyan University. Learn more here. It’s easy to expect the holidays will make us feel loved and accepted but often they can be reminders that we feel rejected by those we love the most. And this can make Thanksgiving and Christmas hurt our hearts.   In today’s episode, I talk about how to stop the pattern of seeking approval from the loved ones that continue to leave you feeling discarded by discussing:       1. Signs that we need to end seeking approval       2. Scripture that resets our mental perspective        3. Ways to focus on empathy for healing    Mind Renewal Tip: If we chase after others’ approval, we often feel rejected. But if we chase after God, we quickly find acceptance.   Scripture Renewal Tip: "Put on the full armor of God, so that you can take your stand against the devil's schemes. For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms. Ephesians 6:11-12:

Discover the way ahead at Indiana Wesleyan University. Learn more here. It’s easy to see when other people are continually difficult and in need of healing, but sometimes we can’t see that we are the one that is hurting – not them! Today Quinn discusses how easy it can be to point the finger at others for their unhealthy behavior but the importance of taking time to ask ourselves, “Am I the one that needs healed?”  In today’s episode, Quinn teaches listeners:       1. 6 Indications we are hurting 2. A question to ask yourself regarding your future that shows we need to heal 3. 3 Steps to take when we are hurting  Mind Renewal Tip: It’s not our fault we get in unhealthy places but it’s our responsibility to notice and take action.   Scripture Renewal Tip: "But those who hope in the Lord will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not be faint" Isaiah 40:31

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Discover the way ahead at Indiana Wesleyan University. Learn more here. In today’s episode, Quin discusses the unhealthy pattern of trying to express yourself and your needs toward someone you love and feeling like that person consistently receives your needs as an attack on them.    In response to that, Quinn teaches listeners how to break that pattern by:       1. Understanding the difference between attack versus communication 2. Disarming statements to use to help a discussion go well 3. Tips by Dr. John Gottman for creating soft start up in a conversation  Mind Renewal Tip: Focusing on what you need someone to do versus what someone did wrong disarms a person’s defensiveness.   Scripture Renewal Tip: The way of a fool is right in his own eyes, but a wise man listens to advice. Proverbs 12:15 7 Ways to Soften Start Up by John Gottman       1. Take responsibility 2. Complain without blame 3. Start with “I” Statements 4. Describe what is happening 5. Be polite 6. Be Appreciative 7. Don’t let things build up

Discover the way ahead at Indiana Wesleyan University. Learn more here. Raising teenagers is hard on its own, but guiding teenagers in dating relationships can be harder than expected! As parents, we want to guide them but we often can find ourselves unsure as to how to keep them healthy, happy and protected when dating.   In today’s episode, Quinn empowers parents to:       1. Draw a boundary with their level of comfort in dating based on age and maturity 2. Have guidelines to teach kids for healthy relationships 3. See one hidden benefit that comes from teen relationships  Mind Renewal Tip: Guiding our kids through dating relationships while they are in our home is a great way to prepare them for healthy relationships when they one day leave the home!  Scripture Renewal Tip: Don’t let anyone look down on you because you are young, but set an example for the believers in speech, in conduct, in love, in faith and in purity. 1 Timothy 4:12

Discover the way ahead at Indiana Wesleyan University. Learn more here. Parenting teenagers is fun and challenging all at once. You get to enjoy them being more independent but also have to navigate how to let them be independent while still guiding them in making good choices that they want to make on their own.   In today’s episode, Quinn encourages listeners to stay sane while parenting teens by:  1. Teaching parents how to not take it personally when your teen doesn’t enjoy you 2. Remembering the importance of protecting them digitally but giving them real life freedom 3. Giving grace when they make mistakes because they will  Mind Renewal Tip: Even mature teens are immature! There brains aren’t fully developed so don’t be surprised when they show it.   Scripture Renewal Tip: Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it. Proverbs 22:6

Discover the way ahead at Indiana Wesleyan University. Learn more here. It’s that time of year when division can easily seem all around us. Politics, holidays, everyday life. It can feel overwhelming to disagree with people you love, and it can feel angering to not know how to handle it!  In today’s episode, Quinn shares her best tips in helping you create understanding and find peace when the world tells you to fight by:       1. Giving you one overarching principle to guide your conversations. 2. Offering a mindset to start a heated conversation with. 3. Teaching a tip to deescalate yourself when feeling triggered with anger.     Mind Renewal Tip: Being angry at someone that doesn’t agree with you is about as pointless as brushing your teeth with Oreos in your mouth. Nothing productive comes from it but frustration.   Scripture Renewal Tip: Whoever is patient has great understanding, but one who is quick tempered displays folly. Proverbs 14:29 Resources: https://www.amazon.com/Anxious-Generation-Rewiring-Childhood-Epidemic/dp/0593655036 https://www.amazon.com/Dopamine-Nation-Finding-Balance-Indulgence/dp/B08LQZCGDJ/ref=sr_1_1?crid=1CUP9CCSGL4EX&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.zHSDmXDw0zRM-BzS0qqNoX-lkMEA7NV5Au2BUwmgK61NBpoo3KzOBed1kr1DzaqWoJCvsXOMrWLZ_R_Kz6w_6g.3o2Rwxj3NWto_KMX5SeVvjWsa9JySVsvor0TgqLVeIQ&dib_tag=se&keywords=ana+lemke&qid=1727723852&s=books&sprefix=ana+lemke%2Cstripbooks%2C193&sr=1-1 Correction: In the episode, Quinn mistaken says the term omnifinality instead of equipfinality.

Discover the way ahead at Indiana Wesleyan University. Learn more here. God desires to use each and every one of us for his glory and for our good. But our minds often lie to us and tell us we aren’t worthy of taking steps to fulfill our passions. Today’s episode is all about breaking through those lies to honor God’s call in our lives.  In the episode, Quinn encourages listeners:       1. Identify what they feel called to 2. Understand the lies or the barriers keeping them stuck and away from that call 3. Be bold in taking the first step to making that dream for their life a reality     Mind Renewal Tip: Most anyone you talk to that has done something great has had to overcome imposter syndrome. Feeling like they aren’t really the right one for the job. But here’s the truth, no one feels like they are the right one for the job until they start the work and see what God does in and through their obedience.   Scripture Renewal Tip: As a prisoner for the Lord, then, I urge you to live a life worthy of the calling you have received. Ephesians 4:1

Discover the way ahead at Indiana Wesleyan University. Learn more here. In today’s episode, Quinn teaches listeners about dopamine, a hormone and neurotransmitter related to pleasure and reward that is present in addiction. In the episode, Quinn asks listeners to examine habits in their life that follow addictive patterns of excess including overconsumption of social media, drinking, sugar or even the news and consider whether a dopamine fast might be something they would benefit from.  In the episode, Quinn teaches listeners how:       1. Our brain is hardwired to keep us in a homeostatic state between pain and pleasure 2. Long term dopamine exposure affects the brain 3. Incorporate habits that reset your dopamine baseline    Mind Renewal Tip: Every pleasure has a price. The ultimate end result in pursuing dopamine is to feel worse than when you started. –Ana Lemke  We are hardwired to seek pleasure. But the constant seeking of pleasure can lead us to feeling less pleasure by becoming addicted to patterns.  Scripture Renewal Tip: "The world and its desires pass away, but whoever does the will of God lives forever." 1 John 2:17  Resources:  Dopamine Nation https://a.co/d/ja3EkUW  Ice Bath Article: https://www.hubermanlab.com/newsletter/the-science-and-use-of-cold-exposure-for-health-and-performance

Discover the way ahead at Indiana Wesleyan University. Learn more here. There seems to be a trend in society that when someone hurts us, we block them not only on our phone and social media but out of our heart as well. In today’s episode, Quinn discusses that while this trend may feel easier for us, it is not always healthy.   After listening today, listeners will understand:       1. Different types of boundaries that guard the heart 2. Ways to gauge is someone is trustworthy 3. How to view that person in a Godly way before seeking repair  Mind Renewal Tip: We often feels cut off protects us when in reality, it often hurts us.  Scripture Renewal Tip: I appeal to you, brothers, to watch out for those who cause divisions and create obstacles contrary to the doctrine that you have been taught; avoid them. Romans 16:17  Resources: Old Testament Article: https://petergoeman.com/what-does-it-mean-cut-off-bible/

Discover the way ahead at Indiana Wesleyan University. Learn more here. A recent study by the CDC released on February 13, 2022 found that teen girls are struggling with their mental health and thoughts of self-harm significantly more than a decade ago. And while there are many factors that can be contributing to this decline including negative effects of continual exposure to social media and longstanding repercussions of isolation from pandemic, it is important for parents to take a proactive approach to strengthen their daughter(s)’ mental health.   In this episode, Quinn offers parents an understanding of:       1. What the recent research shows as to the decline of mental health of girls 2. The power of connection in improving mental health 3. Practical ways parents can protect their daughters  Mind Renewal Tip: The more we focus outward on others, the smaller our individual problems seem  Scripture Renewal Tip:   "No weapon forged against you will prevail, and you will refute every tongue that accuses you. This is the heritage of the servants of the Lord, declares the Lord." Isaiah 54:17  Link to Study: https://www.cdc.gov/healthyyouth/data/yrbs/yrbs_data_summary_and_trends.htm  Declaration of Identity: I am loved. I am here for a reason. I was created with unique purpose. I am beautifully created. And I will see myself that way. I am more than my emotions. I am more than my mistakes. My story is bigger than today. My life is a part of God’s bigger plan. I have a future and a hope. I will live with that in mind. J

Discover the way ahead at Indiana Wesleyan University. Learn more here. Today is Quinn’s 41st birthday and in honor of that, she wanted to share four phrases (plus one bonus phase) that have changed her life for the better. These phrases are one that are easy to remember and easy to apply if you see their importance.  After listening today, Quinn teaches listeners:       1. How too big of goals often stop us from making goals at all. 2. Why living for others keeps you from living for God 3. The importance of not leaving important people in your life guessing if you care  Mind Renewal Tip: Often once we get started with a small something, the big something that we truly desire ot accomplish seems tangible to us!  Scripture Renewal Tip: Because He bends down and listens, I will pray as long as I have breath. Psalm 116:2  Quinn’s Phrases:       1. Something is better than nothing 2. You cannot control what they think of you. So you should focus on what God thinks of you instead. 3. If they’re important, they should know. 4. These are the days. 5. Bonus +1 -- Life with God (even when you’re mad and confused) is better than life without God.

Discover the way ahead at Indiana Wesleyan University. Learn more here. In life we often find ourselves assuming responsibility for things that are not meant to be in our control. Instead of focusing on our own decisions or actions, we find ourselves focusing on what others think about the things we are choosing to do, which is exhausting and unproductive.    In today’s episode, Quinn teaches listeners: 1. Where the bible says our focus should be 2. What we sacrifice when we are focused on the happiness of others 3. The danger of trying to meet unrealistic expectations from others    Mind Renewal Tip: If you are focused on keeping others happy, you are often sacrificing your own well being.   Scripture Renewal Tip: Acts 5:29 Then Peter and the other apostles answered and said, We ought to obey God rather than men.  Resources: https://www.cleerelystated.com/blogs/daily-devotion/ten-things-you-arent-responsible-for

Discover the way ahead at Indiana Wesleyan University. Learn more here. Whether we realize it or not, we choose what we believe in hard times. We can choose to believe we are alone or that God is with us. And that choice can be the difference between suffering and peace when facing the same thing.   There comes a point in all of our lives when we are in the middle of a hard time or trial, l and we feel like we might not make it through. Maybe it’s a job loss. The death of a loved one. Or a struggle with illness. Regardless the circumstance, it’s hard to know how to find your way out.   In today’s episode, Quinn teaches listeners how to navigate a hard time more easily by examining: 1. How choice plays a large role in perseverance 2. God’s promises have the ability to keep our minds stable  Mind Renewal Tip: You’ve got to stand for something or you’ll fall for anything.   Scripture Renewal Tip: Stand firm then, with the belt of truth buckled around your waist. Ephesians 6:14

Discover the way ahead at Indiana Wesleyan University. Learn more here. Moms don’t have to be perfect to be effective in being there for our children. But sometimes, it’s hard to know where to put our mental effort and focus when trying to raise happy and healthy kids.   In today’s episode, Quinn discusses:  Three hidden superpowers of Rockstar moms The importance of connecting with other kids in your home The value of respect in creating a household of healthy kids  Mind Renewal Tip: Kids that feel respected by their parents feel more inclined to respect their parents in return.   Scripture Renewal Tip: The Lord is merciful and gracious, slow to anger and abounding in steadfast love. He will not always hide, nor will he keep his anger forever. He does not deal with us according to our sins, not repay us according to our iniquities. As a father has compassion on his children, so the Lord has compassion on those who fear him. Psalm 103: 8-10,134

Discover the way ahead at Indiana Wesleyan University. Learn more here. Most people feel stress from time to time, but healthy individuals do not carry stress day in and day out or it begins to take a toll on our health. When we adjust to holding stress and not managing it, we can end up with high cortisol levels which wreak havoc on our bodies both mentally and physically.   In today’s episode, Quinn shares about:  What cortisol is What it does when it’s elevated How to reduce it naturally in our daily life  Mind Renewal Tip: We can fight off stress all at once but if we proactively do things to reduce it daily, we can slower make it disappear.   Scripture Renewal Tip: “Cast your burden on the Lord, And He shall sustain you; He shall never permit the righteous to be moved” (Psalm 55:22)  Resources: https://www.charliehealth.com/post/vagus-nerve-exercises  https://elara.care/nutrition/foods-that-lower-anxiety/  https://www.goodrx.com/well-being/diet-nutrition/foods-that-lower-cortisol?label_override=undefined https://www.womenshealthnetwork.com/adrenal-fatigue-and-stress/negative-effects-of-high-cortisol/#:~:text=Thyroid%20imbalances-,Negative%20effects%20of%20high%20cortisol,continual%20state%20of%20hyper%2Denergy

Discover the way ahead at Indiana Wesleyan University. Learn more here. Have you ever felt God telling you to do something that doesn’t necessarily make sense? In this episode, Quinn tells the story of her friend and ministry partner Jarrell feeling compelled to come lay hands on her face at the start of her diagnosis of Ramsay Hunt.In the episode, Quinn teaches listeners:1. What often happens when we don’t listen to God2. The mystery and power of trusting God is at work3. The power of focusing on God’s timingMind Renewal Tip:Obedience is the key to unlocking blessings. --Priscilla ShirerScripture Renewal Tip:"And through your descendants all the nations of the earth will be blessed—all because you have obeyed me." (Genesis 22:18)Jesus replied, "But even more blessed are all who hear the word of God and put it into practice." (Luke 11:28)Wherever You Go I Want You To Know is available here. Save 25% by using code: Go25

Discover the way ahead at Indiana Wesleyan University. Learn more here. Life is not one big story, but instead a compilation of seasons God uses to grow and refine us. When a season isn’t our favorite, it’s tempting to try and rush through the season we are in instead of allowing God to grow us and use our God-given gifts to bloom where we’re planted.   In this episode, Quinn talks about: 1. Different types of seasons God leads us through 2. What happens when we move from one season to the next 3.The best ways to bloom where you’re planted  Mind Renewal Tip: All seasons have purpose. One isn’t better than another. Although one may be more fun than another. And the beauty of God at work in us is not rushing from one season to the next, but allowing God to give us the strength and wisdom to bloom where we are standing.   Scriptural Renewal Tip: There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens: a time to be born and a time to die, a time to plant and a time to uproot, a time to kill and a time to heal, a time to tear down and a time to build, a time to weep and a time to laugh, a time to mourn and a time to dance… Ecclesiastes 3:1-4  Resources: https://www.umcdiscipleship.org/spiritual-gifts-inventory/en

Discover the way ahead at Indiana Wesleyan University. Learn more here. Have you ever felt like your child is not the typical child and you want to accept them but find it challenging too? We often want our children to be themselves but struggle when they stand out for being weird or unlike the other kids their age. They may be confident with their own unique desires and interests, but we may struggle to support them more than we even understand.   In today’s episode, Quinn helps parents:       1. Understand why God wants us to embrace our unique children 2. Identify areas we need to explore for our own healing 3. See the power of writing a new future with who they are instead of who we thought they would be   Mind Renewal Tip: If we spend time trying to be everyone else, we will miss out on being who God called us to be.   Scripture Renewal Tip: Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will. Romans 12:2