Your Anxious Child: 5 minute solutions

Tovah P. Klein, PhD is an adjunct associate professor of psychology at Barnard College and director of the Barnard College Center for Toddler Development. She has written two books and published numerous journal articles. Her first book, How Toddlers Thrive is absolutely one of my favorite books. She helps us decode toddler behavior which can often be quite baffling and confusing.  Her most recent book Raising Resilience could not be more timely. It is about how to do help parent children so that they can deal with uncertainty and adversity. Her knowledge of young children brings fresh insights into what  children of all ages, need from us in order to thrive in a very uncertain world.  https://howtoddlersthrive.com/

Melanie McNally, PsyD has just published Helping Your Unmotivated Teen: A Parent's Guide to Unlock your Child's Potential. She was seeing a lot of parents complain about how their teens appeared lazy and what she found was it was really a problem in motivation. Dr McNally talked with me about how to think about motivation and what goes into it,  She talks about how motivation involves three skillsets: drive, grit and goals and then how to address difficulties with skillset Dr McNally is a licensed clinical psychologist  who is also the author of The Emotionally Intelligent Teen. You can learn about Dr McNally at her website https://www.destinationyou.net/

PDA or Pathological Demand Avoidance, alternatively also called Persistent Demand for Autonomy is a topic that is getting increasing attention in the United States. Ruth Fidler and Diane Gould have just published Navigating PDA in America In this interview, I talk with Diane Gould, LISCW, who founded the PDA North America in 2020, a nonprofit organization dedicated to educating the public about this condition. PDA is viewed as a type of autism in which ordinary demands of everyday life are experienced as a threat and consequently fought against. In this interview, Ms Gould explains this complex condition and how parents can respond to it. For more information about PDA https://pdanorthamerica.org/

Anna Housley Juster has just published a delightful book How to Train Your Amydgala, illustrated by Cynthia Cliff. In this interview we talk about her book and how to use it effectively with children. This children's book talks about how befriend the amydgala, our first responder to any threat or danger, and how to talk it down from any false alarm. A book which is both accessible to any child and accurate with regard to the latest neuroscience is going to be an important addition to the books I share with families. A helpful resource for all children but especially for those who struggle with anxiety Anne Housley Juster, PhD, LICSW is a licensed mental health clinician and education consultant. Among the many things Dr Juster has done, she was for many years as the director of content for Sesame Street.

In this interview, I talk with Peter Vermeulen about his hypothesis that context blindness is the primary feature of autism. This is a perspective that I think beautifully explains some of the unusual fears and phobias that autistic individuals and thus significantly enlarges our understanding of autism and anxiety. His most recent book with Kobe Vanroy is What Really Works for Children with Autism written especially for parents and teachers. Dr Vermeulen has written over 15 books on autism and is an internationally recognized expert on this topic.  More information about Dr Vermeulen can be found at https://petervermeulen.be/

If you have had more than one child, it is very hard not to realize how important temperament is when it comes to children. It certainly plays a role in the development of anxiety disorders. In today's episode I talk with Drs Lengua and Gartstein about how we need to take temperament into account in raising our children. It is such an important topic that can such a difference in raising our children and helping  us really see them as the individuals they are.   Liliana J. Lengua, PhD and Maria A. Gartstein, PhD have just published Parenting with Temperament in Mind: Navigating The Challenges and Celebrating Your Child's Strengths Dr Lengua is Martiz Professor of Psychology at the University of Washington, Director of the Center for Child and Family Well-Being. She is the author of over 150 published articles on the effects of stress and adversity on children. For more information about Dr Lengua https://ccfwb.uw.edu/team/liliana-lengua/ https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/contributors/liliana-j-lengua-phd Dr Garstein is Professor of Psychology and Director of Clinical Psychology Doctoral Program at Washington State University. For more information about Dr Garstein https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/contributors/maria-gartstein-phd

Paul DePompo, PsyD, ABPP and Cassandra Moore, LMFT have written Tic'd: a child's guide to defeating tics. Dr DePompo is the founder of the Cogntive Behavioral Therapy Institute of Southern California. Cassandra Moore, LMFT is in private practice specializing in Tourette Disorder, ADHD, mood disorder and and anxiety disorders.  They have written a very practical and helpful book for children dealing with a tic disorder. The authors provide an easy to follow sequence of steps to implement, CBIT (Comprehensive Behavioral Intervention for Tics) the most effective non-medication treatment for Tourette's Syndrome. It is a resource that clinicians, parents and children will find very helpful. Listen to this podcast and you see why I am so positive about this book For more information  https://getticd.com/

Danielle Dick, PhD is the distinguished Commonwealth Professor of Psychology and Human and Molecular Genetics at Virgina Commonwealth University. She is an internationally recognized expert on genetic and environmental  influences on human behavior.  In this interview, we talk about her book The Child Code. In this book, she provides a interesting review on how genes influence behavior, spoiler alert-there isn't a gene for anxiety-it is more complicated. But more importantly from a parenting perspective, she provided a convenient way of thinking about temperament, what she called the 3 E's and quizes to help you figure out where you and your child are on this dimension. Importantly, she notes that we have to adjust our parenting style to match the temperament of your child. The Child Code is an extremely useful book for parents that is grounded in very solid science.   For more informaton about Dr Dick and access to her online resources for you to explore your child's genetic code. https://r.search.yahoo.com/_ylt=AwrhdUqZUoxmfFgfv7dXNyoA;_ylu=Y29sbwNiZjEEcG9zAzIEdnRpZAMEc2VjA3Ny/RV=2/RE=1721681818/RO=10/RU=https%3a%2f%2fwww.danielledick.com%2fabout/RK=2/RS=x9LSJGmG3cgi7kWLccRRgKZd2M0-

Dr Sherryse Corrow is a professor of psychology at Bethel University in St Paul University, Minnesota. She is talking  with me today about her research into face-blindness or Prosopagnosia. Developmental Prosopagnosia is a condition that has been estimated to effect 1 in 50 with very profound implications for those with this condition. Quite simply, the world is going to be a much more anxious place if you can't identify faces. Dr Corrow explains how this condition shows up in children, how adults can begin to identify it and some of the research into Prosopagnosia. Dr Corrow can be reached at shc62369@bethel.edu https://r.search.yahoo.com/_ylt=AwrEsGa8E3tmCAQA0wtXNyoA;_ylu=Y29sbwNiZjEEcG9zAzEEdnRpZAMEc2VjA3Ny/RV=2/RE=1720551613/RO=10/RU=https%3a%2f%2fwww.bethel.edu%2facademics%2ffaculty%2fsherryse-corrow/RK=2/RS=_KLD0xt2y42lz5iqMfMNY5NlAHI- A link to where she summarizes her research in more scientific terms https://youtu.be/4n8_upaJMxI?si=NHHewNFR6vXDO91S and for a reference mentioned in the podcast https://www.faceblind.org/

Kiley Hanish, OTD, PMH-C is a neurodivergent occupational therapist specializing in mental health during the perinatal period which includes pregnancy, postpartum and perinatal loss. She has coauthored "Descriptive Study of the Sensory Experiences of Autistic Mothers as Occupational Beings". Recognizing that the majority of autistic individuals experience sensory processing challenges, this study looks at the challenges autistic mothers face in the transition to parenting. Becoming a parent is an intense experience from a sensory standpoint at each point in the journey. In this interview Dr Hanish describes some of the challenges autistic mothers face and the implications for health care. It is a fascinating topic which has not received the attention it deserves.  For more information about Dr Hanish: https://r.search.yahoo.com/_ylt=AwrEqxvcx2hmIjoBfepXNyoA;_ylu=Y29sbwNiZjEEcG9zAzEEdnRpZAMEc2VjA3Ny/RV=2/RE=1719352541/RO=10/RU=https%3a%2f%2fwww.drkileyhanish.com%2f/RK=2/RS=8BPfR.zToOrMxj_B.c1WCsPKSFI- And for her nonprofit about perinatal loss, Return to Zero: HOPE https://rtzhope.org/ https://r.search.yahoo.com/_ylt=AwriiK1CyGhmHQQAEy9XNyoA;_ylu=Y29sbwNiZjEEcG9zAzQEdnRpZAMEc2VjA3Ny/RV=2/RE=1719352643/RO=10/RU=https%3a%2f%2frtzhope.org%2f/RK=2/RS=wZ7b.lvdCYyWokpOIkBMOgYl5Ys-

Jonathan Dalton, PhD is a licensed psychologist who is the founder and director of the Center for Anxiety and Behavioral Change in Rockville, MD. He specializes in the treatment of anxiety disorders in children and adolescents. He is a sought after speaker and passionate advocate of public education concerning mental health issues. In this podcast, Dr Dalton explains anxiety may present differently in neurodivergent children. While a decrease in parental accommodation is a central part of the treatment in neurotypical children, Dr Dalton points how accommodations to the sensory sensitivity of neurodivergent can be a critical part helping the child. Listen to this podcast to learn some practical interventions and also the thoughtfulness required in helping these children. Dr Dalton has a way of presenting methaphors that I think you will also enjoy   Dr Dalton can be found at: https://changeanxiety.com/about-us/ His recent master class "Understanding Anxiety: A Strength-Based Perspective" can be found at https://neurodivergentinsights.com/trainings

Yshai Boussi, LPC is a licensed professional counselor who works with teens and families. Polyvagal theory developed by Steven Porges is a perspective that many clinicians have found very useful. Yshai Boussi has presented this theory in very practical terms that can help parents become more attuned to their teenager and remain more connected to them. To learn more about Yshai Boussi and view his blog https://portlandfamilycounseling.com/about-us/yshai-boussi-lpc/

Lenore Skenazy is the author of Free-Range Kids: How Parents and Teachers Can Let Go and Let Grow and is President of Let Grow, a nonprofit organization dedicated to promoting play and independence in children and adolesecence. Ms Skenazy created quite a sensation after her article "Why I Let My 9-Year-Old Ride the Subway Alone" and got labeled "America's Worst Mom". This lead her to start Let Grow which is an invaluable resource for helping schools and parents promote healthy growth promoting independence in children. Her approach has the benefit of simplicity and common sense. By encouraging independent activity, you are promoting confidence and decreasing anxiety in your child. And it also happens to be fun. Pair this interview with the one I did last year with Camillo Ortiz, PhD who developed an innovative approach to helping anxious children by givng them mega doses of independence.  Ms. Skenazy also helped Jonthan Haidt in his recent book Anxious Generation write the recommendations about how to correct a "phone based childhood" and return it to a "play based childhood".      Let Grow website https://r.search.yahoo.com/_ylt=AwrFEIxplh1mPrQWQyNXNyoA;_ylu=Y29sbwNiZjEEcG9zAzEEdnRpZAMEc2VjA3Ny/RV=2/RE=1714424681/RO=10/RU=https%3a%2f%2fletgrow.org%2f/RK=2/RS=UD_aH_MXQEBH_BBxdrHFYlXabIM-

Linda K. Murphy is a speech language pathologist who has written two books, Declarative Language Handbook and Co-Regulation Handbook. I found her books wonderful in clarifying how language can either turn the volume up or down on anxiety. Imperative language, those questions or comments that demand a response can create stress or anxiety. In contrast, declarative or descriptive language can help your child achieve a more regulated and open state. In this conversation, we talk about the power of just describing or observing, rather than jumping into problem solving. In this approach, we can begin to avoid unproductive power battles and foster a more collobrative relationship with our children. For more information about Linda K. Murphy, MS, CCC-SLP https://www.declarativelanguage.com/

Regine Galanti, PhD has just published Parenting Anxious Kids: Understanding Anxiety in Children by Age and Stage. She is the author of several other books aimed at helping children with anxiety such as Anxiety Relief for Teens.  She is the founder of Long Island Behavioral Psychology and can be found at https://www.longislandbehavioral.com/team In this interview we have a chance to explore her new book which contains invaluable advice for parents of anxious children at each stage of their development

Dr Jame Gregory is a clinical psychologist and researcher based at the University of Oxford. She has written with Adeel Ahmod a very helpful book on Misophonia that clinicians, those with misophonia and significant others will truly benefit by. She helps clarify why misophonia often gets attached to a significant person and details a program of therapy that can lessen the severity of this condition. It is really a must read for anyone concerned with this condition, but first listen to the podcast because her passion for this material is so evident.

It was a pleasure to have Natasha Daniels as a return guest on this podcast to talk about her new book Crushing OCD: Workbook Kids.  This book is going to be an excellent resource for families and therapists trying to help children with OCD. One of strengths of this book is that it lays out in very digestible units the sequence of steps needed in order to "crush OCD". It is also no small feat the language in this book is very child friendly but always respectful.  https://hillchildcounseling.com/ https://atparentingsurvivalschool.com/p/difficult-behaviors

Stephen P. H. Whiteside, PhD is a clinical psychologist, Professor of Psychology in the Mayo Clinic College of Medicine and Science, and Director of the Pediatric Anxiety Disorders Prgram at the Mayo Clinic in Rochester, MN.  His new book will be out in April in which he  outlines parent-coached exposure therapy. Unlike other therapy experiences, where children meet alone with a therapist, Dr Whiteside focuses on teaching parents how to help children work on their anxiety or OCD at home. In this interview we talk about his approach to treating anxiety disorders and some of the challenges in treating all anxiety disorders.

I had the opportunity to talk with Aimee Kotrba, PhD on the occasion of the release of the second edition of Selective Mutism: An Assessment and Intervention Guide for Therapists, Educators and Parents co-authored with Katelyn Reed, M.S. She is an international expert on the topic of selective mutism and I have used her material frequently with children struggling with selective mutism. Listen to this informative and fun talk with Aimee Kotrba, PhD. Dr Aimee Kotrba,  is the owner of Thriving Minds Behavioral Health Clinic in Michigan and directs a camp for children with selective mutism Confident Kids Camp For more information about Dr Kotrba and to access her webnairs and other material https://www.thrivingmindsbehavioralhealth.com/

Emily Edlynn, PhD is a clinical psychologist who has just published Autonomy-Supportive Parenting: Reduce Parental Burnout & Raise Competent, Confident Children. As Emily Edlynn explains "This book gives parents a roadmap to move away from hovering and over-helping (burning us out and undermining our kids competence and confidence) to raising self-sufficent children ready for the world. We can all shift from "full service" to "self-service" in our homes by focusing on three fundamental human needs: autonomy, relatedness and competence." In this interview, Emily illustrates how we can move away from more fear based parenting which tends to be very controlling and contributes to anxiety in children to parenting that fosters competence and a sense of agency.  https://www.emilyedlynnphd.com/ She is also co-host on the podcast Psychologist off the clock and check out her interview with Jennifer Wallace author of Never Enough: When Achievemnt Culture Becomes Toxic-And What we Can do About it.  This book nicely compliments Autonomy-Supportive Parenting https://offtheclockpsych.com/toxic-achievement-culture-with-jennifer-wallace/