Deep Listening - Impact beyond words - Oscar Trimboli

Oscar Trimboli

The world is a noisy place where you fight to be heard every day. Despite the fact that we have been taught at home and at school how to speak, none of us has had any training in how to listen. Multiple academic studies have shown that between 50% and 55% of your working day is spent listening, yet only 2% of people have been trained in how to listen. We feel frustrated, isolated and confused because we aren't heard. As a speaker, it takes absolutely no training to notice when someone isn't listening - they're distracted, they interrupt or drift away as you talk. Yet the opposite is also true, without any training in how to listen we struggle to stay connected with the speaker and the discussion. This results in unproductive workplaces where people fight to be heard and need to repeat themselves constantly, send emails to confirm what they said and then have follow-up meetings to ensure what was said was actually heard by those in the meeting. It's a downward spiral that drains energy from every conversation and reduces the productivity of organisations. This podcast is about creating practical tips and techniques to improve your daily listening. Listen for free read less
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how to effectively listen when you debate at work
13-08-2024
how to effectively listen when you debate at work
This episode delves into the critical role of listening, particularly in the context of debates and the competitive advantage provided to participants. Sasan Kisravi explains the significance of preparation in debate, especially when preparing both sides of the argument. When preparing both sides of an argument, you can discover and  anticipate the counterpoints that will help you discover multiple approaches to the same issue. The concept of "competitive listening" is emphasized, and it is important to understand an opponent's argument and analyze its impact on the judge and audience. Note-taking is a crucial tool for effective listening, but there is a difference between traditional note-taking and a more strategic approach. The latter involves creating a visual map of arguments, identifying key points, and tracking the flow of the discussion. This method allows listeners to maintain focus, identify unaddressed points, and ultimately gain a clearer understanding of the debate. The conversation also touches on the psychological aspects of listening, highlighting the importance of motivation and purpose. By understanding the nuances of effective listening, individuals can improve their communication skills, build stronger relationships, and achieve greater success at work.   Listening is a competitive advantage: Effective Listening is crucial for success in debates and workplace communication.Preparation is key: Understanding both sides of an argument and anticipating counterpoints is essential for effective listening and responding.Note-taking is a strategic tool: Creating visual maps of arguments helps maintain focus, identify key points, and analyze the flow of the discussion.     www.listening.com Where to start? Start here How to listen like a High Court Judge with Justice Michael Kirby Listen like World Memory Champion Dr Boris Konrad Brooklyn Debate League 01:38:00 - The complete Munk Debate - Mainstream Media featuring Douglas Murray, Matt Taibbi, Malcolm Gladwell, Michelle Goldberg November 30, 2022 00:47:36 The original Phuskin Industries Revisionist History Podcast Episode - Malcolm goes to debate school – complete audio episode April 13, 2023 00:10:10 Douglas Murray on Malcolm Gladwell: "I Still Don't Feel Pity"
the hidden clues when you listen well in low trust group meetings
14-02-2024
the hidden clues when you listen well in low trust group meetings
This episode of Deep Listening Impact Beyond Words explores the art of listening in diplomatic cross-cultural meetings, drawing insights from British Foreign Secretary James Cleverly's discussion with Cindy Yu on The Spectator's Chinese Whisper Podcast. Key takeaways: Focus on non-verbal cues: Ambassador Cleverly emphasizes that what people don't say, their body language, note-taking, and response delays are often more revealing than their spoken words. This applies not just to high-stakes diplomacy but also to everyday workplace meetings.Team listening: Effective listening involves individual attentiveness and collaboration within your team.  The power of silence: Pay attention to pauses in the conversation. Their length, frequency, and placement can signal reflection, emphasis, cultural differences, or the weight of potential responses.Longitudinal listening: Notice subtle changes in language, body language, and overall tone over time during extended negotiations or repeated meetings. Actionable insights: Reflect on your listening habits: How much attention do you pay to non-verbal cues?  Practice team listening: Discuss group observations and interpretations after meetings to gain a more comprehensive understanding.Refine your pause awareness: Observe how others use pauses and experiment with your own pausing to enhance meaning and impact. By applying these insights from diplomatic listening to your own workplace interactions, you can improve communication, build trust, and navigate complex situations more effectively. Additional Resources  "Does China Care What Britain Thinks?" from The Spectator's Chinese Whisper Podcast hosted by Cindy Yu. "Ambassadors: Thinking About Diplomacy From Machiavelli To Modern Times" by Robert Cooper.
the significant ramifications of your work environment on listening
09-10-2023
the significant ramifications of your work environment on listening
Dr. Krishna Naineni works as a general practitioner in England. He's a member of the Royal College of General Practitioners and is a faculty at Brighton and Sussex Medical School. He's passionate about listening education, research, and practice. He's delivered structured and evidence-based listening education programs in the UK and in India to hundreds of healthcare professionals with practical strategies and the knowledge needed to enhance the way they engage with their patients through their listening practice. He has co-founded Glocal Academy, which has been instrumental in delivering custom-made clinical communication skills training programs to healthcare professionals and organizations across India and the United Kingdom. The academy delivered its first ever clinical communication skills training program in 2015 to healthcare professionals in India. He enjoys a long distance running and he hates cooking, but he loves eating food. During this discussion, Dr. Naineni change my mind about the impact of the environment in which you listen , education and your mindset, particularly in healthcare, but equally in workplaces all around the world. While you're listening today, reflect on the question about what does your physical or virtual environment contribute or detract from the effectiveness of your listening? I'd love to hear your answers, and for the first five people who send an email to podcast@oscartrimboli.com with a subject line Environment with an answer to these questions: 1. How does this conversation increase your awareness about the impact of your environment? 2. How does this play out in face-to-face environments? 3. How does it play out in virtual environments, 4. and what change will you make as a result of listening to this conversation? We'll send you a paperback copy of the award-winning book, how to Listen: discover the hidden key to better communication, the most comprehensive book about listening in the workplace, and we'll send it in the post for you. What's the cost of not listening?
the power of effective listening in spontaneous conversations with Matt Abrahams
26-09-2023
the power of effective listening in spontaneous conversations with Matt Abrahams
Matt Abrahams is a leading expert in the field of communications. He's a lecturer in organizational behavior at Stanford University's Graduate School of Business. He teaches a very popular class in strategic communication and effective virtual presenting. He's so good, he's even won the school's alumni teaching award. Matt also co-teaches improvisational speaking in Stanford's Continuing Studies program. To relax and rejuvenate, Matt enjoys hiking with his wife, watching sport with his kids, hang out with his friends, and continually being humbled in the Karate Dojo. In Matt's new book, Think Faster, Talk Smarter, an important contribution to the field of communication in the workplace, he takes the time to unpack the role of listening in communication. He highlights this in one chapter, yet there's a thread throughout the entire book about the importance of listening to the audience. The book provides really tangible and actionable tips and techniques to help you as the speaker succeed for the majority of times speaking spontaneously. Matt provides science-based strategies for managing your anxiety, responding to the mood of the room, making content concise, relevant, compelling and memorable. He draws on his own stories, he draws on stories from his clients and his students. He offers ways to navigate Q&A sessions, successful job interviews, providing feedback, even making small talk and persuading others while handling those impromptu moments at work. I've read his book a few times and Matt's punchy 20-minute podcast Think Fast, Talk Smart, has been in my podcast feed since 2020. I strongly recommend Think Faster, Talk Smarter because Matt deals with the issues about communication in the workplace that I think are the crucial ones, not the planned presentation, the spontaneous speaking moments. I'm listening to you. If you'd like to be one of the first five people to receive a copy of Matt's book, Think Faster, Talk Smarter, send an email podcast at oscar trimboli dot com with the Subject, Smarter, and answer these three questions. What did you learn from Matt?What did you learn from our conversation?And what will you do differently as a result of listening to today's episode?   Listen to how well Matt listens and spontaneously answers when I throw him a curveball question at the end of our discussion. Matt, what's the cost of not listening?
how to listen when you will never be able to fix it
01-06-2023
how to listen when you will never be able to fix it
Kathryn Mannix has spent her medical career working with people who have incurable advanced illnesses. Starting in cancer care and changing career to become a pioneer of the new discipline of palliative medicine, she's worked with teams in hospices, hospitals, and in patients' own homes to deliver palliative care, optimizing quality of life even as death is approaching. Kathryn has worked with many thousands of dying people and has found their ability to deal with illness and death both fascinating and inspirational. She believes that a better public awareness about what happens as we die would reduce fear and enable people to discuss their hopes and plans with the people that matter to them. Her account of how people live while they're dying, in her book, With the End in Mind, was published to Universal acclaim and was shortlisted for the Wellcome Prize. Kathryn's next book, Listen: How to Find the Words for Tender Conversations, starts with a potent story about her early career encounter with Mrs. de Souza. I encourage you to listen to this discussion more than once. Kathryn's listening, it's well class and the way she explains listening is compelling. I have five copies of Kathryn's book to share. If you email podcast@Oscartrimboli.com with the subject "Tender" and your reflections of this conversation. You could reflect on the story of Mrs. de Souza. You might reflect on Dorothy and her listening, or how you think about dancing and listening, the difference between doing and being listening, the impact of listening via video versus face-to-face. This is such a rich and nuanced experience. Kathryn completely changed the way I think about listening.
Beyond the CVs, how to listen for the breakthroughs in bioscience.
04-05-2023
Beyond the CVs, how to listen for the breakthroughs in bioscience.
Imagine the cost of not listening in your workplace is someone's life, improving the quality of their life, extending their life. This is the life-changing work that is the focus of B Corp certified life sciences recruitment and search consultancy - RBW Consulting spanning Boston, the United Kingdom, Switzerland, North Carolina, and San Diego. Their work covers everything from computational biology, product development, engineering, regulatory affairs, and everything in between, across pharmaceutical and life sciences industries. Continuing with our behind-the-scenes season of speaking to people who are using Deep Listening, we listen to Emma and Michelle about their focus on Human Intelligence. First, a little backstory and a shout-out to Stuart from Stirred Health who reached out to me in September of 2021 with this message. "Hi, Oscar. I'm interested in discussing a collaboration/partnership on behalf of our client. We are keen to hear more about how Deep Listening could help us out and our client. I'm based in the UK." I was then introduced to their chief commercial officer, Emma and their learning and development director Michelle. What I love about working with RBW is the ripple effect of doing one thing consistently well. We discussed this very thoroughly in the co-design process, which was ultimately foundational into integrating Deep Listening into their Human Intelligence strategy. What you'll hear next is a discussion between Emma, Michelle, and myself about the impact of listening in the life sciences. Listen out for the story about  how to consistently shorten meetings and build rapporthow to listen beyond the CVthe importance of the productive question rather than any questionthe question every candidate should be asking during an interview   Listen for free
a live debrief - how to create a profound team workshop with listening
13-04-2023
a live debrief - how to create a profound team workshop with listening
Today I'll explore before, during, and after a workshop. This is a workshop I had with Sophie, who you'll hear from shortly and her peers. Then we did the same workshop with Sophie's team. People regularly say, "Oscar, how can you listen after the conversation?" This can take many forms. It could be right at the end of a workshop where you ask a question or a poll roughly in the last 15% of the workshop. You want to catch it in enough time that you can discuss it so you can hear what's being heard by the participants. So if the workshop's one hour, you should be asking this question between the 45-minute mark and the 50-minute mark. Here's some of the questions I ask, what's one thing that changed your mind about listening today?what's one thing you'll implement based on what you heard today? The first question is typically in shorter workshops, and the second question is typically in longer workshops. Post-workshop, you can also run a survey or you can deconstruct the magical impact that a workshop has in a 25-minute debrief. I do this within 14 days of the workshop. What you don't know about me is I'm really disciplined and rigorous about post-workshop debriefs. In fact, I'm talking about that before people even book in a workshop. I'm signaling to them that there will be a debrief. I signal to them in the workshop, that is something we'll discuss in the debrief. And this is crucial to create a space and place, to create a container where the host of the meeting, or a significant executive sponsor can unpack the learning that they had, that the group had. I want to ensure that the host reflects on their own experience in the workshop and not just the workshop itself. What you'll hear from Sophie shortly is her post-workshop experience and how ideas landed so powerfully because the workshop was so experiential, it was very hands-on. I want hosts also to reflect on the participant experience, individuals, as well as a group. I want to listen to what participants actually heard, rather than what I said. I want to listen to what participants didn't hear, couldn't hear, or I didn't communicate effectively enough that it was useful for them.   Finally, I want to understand what was productive for the audience so I can distill that and crisp that up for next time to ensure that if it's landed with one group, it's highly likely to land with another group. This is part of the craft of facilitating a workshop from a listening orientation, you want to hear what the group heard, what's landing, and what's not. When you pick that up and use it next time, it's like somebody who's a woodworker, who's moving from chisel to sandpaper to varnish. Sophie's been very gracious, she's allowed me to record this conversation to help you listen to what a debrief sounds like. Here are some of the excerpts from the discussion with Sophie.
The Why, how, what and who of the Deep Listening Ambassador Community
02-02-2023
The Why, how, what and who of the Deep Listening Ambassador Community
Deep Listening Ambassadors 2023   The purpose of the Deep Listening Ambassadors Community is to create 100 Million Deep Listeners in the workplace. Be a listening role model in your community, not a perfect listenerBeing better than the last conversationCreate a connection to useful listening resourcesSupport other Deep Listening Ambassadors around the world The Deep Listening Ambassadors meet regularly across three time zones to understand, learn, and support each other to improve their listening.   Background Born in December 2019, the Deep Listening Ambassador Community was named through a listening process. We asked people who wanted more information about listening if they would like a place to practice and improve their listening. Through a survey of 426 people, they voted, and the community agreed to call themselves Deep Listening Ambassadors. The community has grown 2,448 members across 19 countriesexplored how to bring Deep Listening into their workplacediscussed how to make progress with their workplace listening during 93 online workshops across 3 time zonesmade connections with other Ambassadorsprovided feedback on how to listen – the book including title, structure, stories, and weekly exercisesprototyped how to listen – an online course – including feedback about assessments, course structures, and pricing.Requested and provided input into a Deep Listening Accreditation   The group has grown organically, and with 2,448 people who have joined the community, I wanted to invite you to let me know how you would like to shape the Ambassador community in the next 12 months. If you would like to have your say in the future of the community, I invite you to complete this  5 minute survey.   As a thank you for your time and commitment to the community and the process of listening, I will post a paperback copy of how to listen - discover the hidden key to better communication - the most comprehensive book about listening in the workplace to you, just for completing the survey. The survey must be completed on Midnight February 15, 2023 United States Pacific Time For everyone who completes the quiz will go into a draw. One person will be randomly drawn from the group, and they will be the winner of a bonus prize. Bonus Prize You will receive 10 copies of the book and a 45-minute listening online workshop for up to 20 people in your workplace. If you work for yourself, I will run this workshop for one of your clients or suppliers for up to 20 people. This workshop will need to be completed by June 30, 2023. www.oscartrimboli.com/feedback